Getting Past Offenses

15 Jan

The careless words of others can wound deeply. If we’re unprepared for the unkind words of others, we can be shocked by those closest to us. Unkind speech finds us all, but we have the privilege of responding in love.

Picture this: an individual says something unkind, sees your response, and feigns innocence at the reaction their words garnered. Do you recognize the following defensive tactics?

“What?” As in, What did I say that you don’t like? or What are you so upset about? Before you react negatively, remember, you don’t know the exact translation of her “What?” but she’s given you a perfect opportunity to respond in love. Answer her truthfully. Kindly explain why her words offended you.

“You’re too sensitive.” This is a classic response from someone who doesn’t want to take responsibility for his words. This person would rather choke to death than let an apology cross his lips. Unfortunately, there are those who think apologizing is a sign of weakness. Show him that’s not the case. “I’m sorry you feel that way, but you need to know, your words really hurt me.”

Regardless of how others use their words, you are responsible for your speech and actions. Scripture says if you’ve been offended, go to your brother and tell him. Make it a priority. Don’t let your hurts fester.

Finally, forgive. We need forgiveness for our many tresspasses, so we must be quick to forgive to those who offend us.

~ Jericha Kingston



Posted by on January 15, 2016 in devotion, Jericha Kingston


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4 responses to “Getting Past Offenses

  1. Candice Sue Patterson

    January 15, 2016 at 6:19 am

    Well said, Jericha! Sometimes we forget how hurtful our words can be. Great reminder.

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  2. twinwillowsfarm

    January 15, 2016 at 9:29 am

    Ugh. I’m more on the giving, rather than receiving, end of this discussion. My speech definitely needs more filter than I possess. Thanks for reminding me that what I say can be hurtful to others.

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  3. Robin Patchen

    January 15, 2016 at 11:23 am

    It’s funny how just about anybody can say anything to me, and I let it roll off my back. But if it’s my husband, watch out! I really need to learn to respond better. Great suggestions.

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    • twinwillowsfarm

      January 15, 2016 at 3:37 pm

      Yeah. I’ve got rhino hide for almost any comment from anybody … except my hubby. He can cut me to the bone with a word. I think it’s because we expect – want – our husbands to always affirm us. (Even when what we really need is their loving truth.)

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