I can relate. I don’t like saying No because I enjoying helping people. But I’ve often said Yes to requests that have been pretty unreasonable, even downright selfish. We’re supposed to set an example by being a blessing to people, right? How can we do that if we don’t say Yes?
Here are three reasons to reconsider your response when people ask you for help.
Give people a chance to discover new solutions to their problems. That may sound cruel, but if someone continues to take advantage of your kindness to assist, it’s not healthy for her or you. Give the individual an opportunity to weigh all of her options.
A grudgingly-given Yes is really a dishonest No in disguise. Why say Yes if you don’t mean it? Scripture tells us to let our yes and no be authentic. We must be emotionally transparent, honest in our speech and actions.
An authentic No is a blessing. God gives wisdom to those who ask. Ask Him how you should use your time. When we’re not constantly fulfilling the wishes of others, we can rightly divide our time with our Creator, our families, our work, and our hobbies.
By all means, whenever it’s in your power to help someone, do. But if you sense a pattern of irresponsible behavior, a genuine No might be the kindest response you can give.
Those are my thoughts. I’d love to hear yours.