What is Home?, part two

14 Sep
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Image courtesy of phasinphoto/

In my last post, What is Home?, I shared my filming experience with director Scott Paul for his documentary What Home Means to Me. I talked about the physical structure of the home and the little touches we add to make it “ours.”

According to the information provided by the U.S. Census Bureau, the average American moves once every five years. That’s a lot of dwellings. Those statistics made me curious as to why folks relocate so often compared to our ancestors. So I did a little research.

Jobs. Let’s face it, a good job where we’re happy is hard to find nowadays, and if we find it the corporate powers don’t keep us for long. Sadly, retirement is becoming a thing of the past.

Safety. Crime is on the rise, including Small Town, USA.

Growing families. This is always a good thing. More people + more love = bigger house.

Economy. Many companies are downsizing or sending their work overseas. Between fluctuating gas prices, high health care costs, and job losses, more homes become vacant every day.

Getting older. Once the kids are grown and gone, a large home becomes impractical and many couples downsize to a more manageable property.

Relationships. Most newlywed couples are on the market for a first home, while divorces cause need for separate ones.

Jones Syndrome. You know the saying, “keeping up with the Jones’s,” or in Layman’s terms, covetousness. Some folks move simply for status factor.

Of course there are many more reasons. But one underlying factor I found in my research is restlessness. Humans searching for a sense of self. Though I believe many of us do it unknowingly, we tend to put our identity in our careers and trades, forgetting those things have no bearing on who we truly are on the inside. Therefore we move for job promotions, we transfer to keep our trade (which I know sometimes is absolutely necessary), we move because our souls are restless. And then there’s moving out of need.

So let’s talk about the real estate trail. I myself have moved four times in the last fourteen years–when I got married, when my husband’s job changed, when we needed a larger house for our growing family, and when my job transferred. I am the average American. What about you? How many times have you relocated? Was it by choice or need?

~Candice Sue Patterson writes Modern-Vintage Romance–where the past and present collide with faith. Her debut novel How to Charm a Beekeeper’s Heart will release with Pelican Book Group in 2016. For more, visit her website at


Posted by on September 14, 2015 in Uncategorized


3 responses to “What is Home?, part two

  1. Robin Patchen

    September 14, 2015 at 9:07 am

    My hubby and I have been married 22 years, and we’ve moved four times. The first two were for jobs, once to Massachusetts for my work, the second to Oklahoma for his. Then we bought our first house and lived there seven years. There were a number of factors that prompted us to move out of that house. The traffic on that side of town and the direction the neighborhood seemed to be going in were two factors. The third had to do with the neighbors. Nice people, but our young son idolized their son, who was a couple of years older. He was a really nice kid, but his older siblings were not a good influence. We put all those things together and realized it was time to make a move. We’ve lived in this house for 11 years and plan to stay here until our youngest graduates in another five years. Then, who knows?


  2. jerichakingston

    September 14, 2015 at 12:38 pm

    I moved more as a child than I ever did as an adult, and it was probably out of necessity. If I counted correctly, I’m currently in my 15th dwelling. I enjoy living in a new location, but the actual MOVING? Ugh.


  3. Kara (@KaraHunt2015)

    September 14, 2015 at 5:56 pm

    Probably about five times in last 25+ years. First apartment, first townhouse, first house, another apartment as hubby’s job moved him out of state, second house as we wanted more space. Our first house we stayed in for about 7 years. And the one we are currently in will be 10 years next year. So, like Robin, who’s knows what’s next? 🙂



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