Pulling Weeds

13 Oct

photo 2Cute isn’t he? Our youngest is still at the age where he enjoys working—he says it’s fun—because it makes him feel grown up. Our oldest children, ages ten and twelve, found out a long time ago work is far from fun. But enjoyable or not, pulling weeds is vital to a successful vegetable or flower garden. The same goes for our lives. We must pull the weeds of negativity and hurt, even if it means refusing to let others take advantage of us. Except we’re Christians, so standing firm against others when we know we should is wrong if it will upset the other person, right? WRONG!

Jesus called people out when needed and spoke the truth bluntly. Just look at the account of the moneychangers in the temple, or the times the Pharisee’s attempted to trick Him into saying or doing something wrong. The key is Jesus did so in love. He stated the facts and those individuals could choose to listen and change or ignore Him, but either way He still loved them. Enough to die on the cross for them (us), in fact. So what does this have to do with weeds?

I’ve been reading a fantastic book by Paul Coughlin and Jennifer D. Degler, Ph.D. called No More Christian Nice Girl. The truths in this book are profound. You see, from the time we females are born we’re taught to be nice—never intentionally hurt anyone’s feelings, always do what we can to help others, be soft-spoken, never rude, and—if raised in a strict religious household—remain silent, keeping opinions and ideals to ourselves, especially in the presence of men. Problem is these characteristics can be poisonous if not used correctly. Over time we grow so accustom to these traits we let others trample upon us like a doormat. It’s time to take the Welcome sign off our foreheads and be, as the book states, the 360-degree human God created us to be. Yes, Jesus is love, but he’s more than just love. What’s killing a lot of churches today is that His gentle and kind side is the only side of Him being taught. Folks are putting God in a box and refusing to experience the rest of Him. How can we conform to His image if we only choose to study one aspect of His personality?

This book not only walks the reader through the 360-degree Jesus, giving many examples of this truth from scripture, but also provides a study of many women from the Bible who chose to be bold and were blessed for doing so. See, being silent isn’t always the best option. Even when in the presence of men.

Topics covered in this book include:

*Social and Cultural Pressures

*Harmful Childhood Experiences

*Friendships and Family





“Nice girl” syndrome negatively affects every one of these areas. Yes, even sex. So if you want a beautiful, inviting, more productive life garden start pulling weeds!

~Candice Sue Patterson

Candice is an author of contemporary romance. Her debut novella Bright Copper Kettles is available now. Silver White Winters coming winter 2014! Visit her blog Hobby Farmer by Day, Author by Night for book reviews, recipes, crafts, and country living. Follow Candice on Facebook.


Posted by on October 13, 2014 in Candice Sue Patterson


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2 responses to “Pulling Weeds

  1. Pegg Thomas

    October 13, 2014 at 6:36 am

    Sounds like a good book to read, Candice. Thanks for sharing!


  2. rpatchen

    October 13, 2014 at 8:48 am

    “The key is Jesus [confronted people] in love.” And that’s the challenge, isn’t it? To love people and say no, anyway. Great post. And that book sounds really good.



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