This Sunday is Mother’s Day, the day our culture publicly celebrates motherhood. Mother’s Day was officially initiated in the U.S. in 1908, when Anna Jarvis desired to honor mothers and their sacrifices. Due to its rapid commercialization, Ms. Jarvis regretted the creation of Mother’s Day for the rest of her life.
Honoring one’s mother has nothing to do with a day on the calendar, and everything to do with year-round respect. Let’s discard wilted expressions of appreciation for moms.
Be spontaneous. With extra thought and preparation, you can show mom what a brilliant child she’s raised. Instead of (or in addition to) cards and flowers, how about a picnic, or a walk in the park? A hand-written letter? The gifts she treasures most aren’t found in stores.
What moms really want. Moms want the gift of your time. Communicate with her. Tell her about your goals. Avoid shallow talk with the woman you think she is. Express interest in what interests your mom. Have you ever asked her about her childhood, or about her future plans? You may find out things you never knew.
Be creative. What does your mom like? Does she crochet? Paint? Skydive? Ask her how she came to enjoy those activities. Does she enjoy writing? A box of stationary is a wonderful gift. Does she volunteer? Work alongside her. If you don’t know what’s important to your mom, then this Mother’s Day is the perfect opportunity to learn.
Forgive and move on. Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can offer your mom. Which mother hasn’t made mistakes? If you’re a parent, you realize the weight of regret. Regret is common, but reconciliation is a gift. Extend it and receive it. It’s liberating.
Celebrate each day. Be intentional. Visit and call often. Take pictures. Give hugs. Enjoy your relationship. Tell her she’s a blessing and that you love her. Saying ‘I love you’ may be difficult for you, but your actions can shout it.
If your mother has passed, redeem the day. Instead of focusing on your loss this Mother’s Day, honor your aunt, sister, or daughter instead. There are many ways to honor mothers you care for, even if she’s not your own. In doing so, you will speed the healing of your heart.
A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. ~ Proverbs 11:25
~ Jericha Kingston